Tuesday, April 9, 2013
My hope is this spring holiday season and the renewal Easter brings will inspire another shot at a “New Year” where we all can choose to be more happy, more healthy, more caring, more patient, more faithful and change what we need to change to be all of those things.
I spent too much on Easter. I mean it was ridiculous. Part of it is my own lack of discipline, but part is trying to make everyone in my family “happy.” I’ve read your column enough to know you’ll say that we need to model and teach that happiness is a choice, and be moderate in our giving so that our children learn the value of money.
Still blew it.
Thank you for writing half of my response. And thank you for reading. Well, join the club. An informal survey of friends at church, myself included, agreed the standard Easter stuff cost more this year.
Add to your great answer to your own question, that we need to teach that love is expressed through caring gestures, laughing together, having experiences beyond things. I know next year I’m going to just get singles in the amount that I spent on each basket and just fill each basket with the cash. Or replace it with a mini version of the baskets and an experience.
Once we realize we’ve messed up, we need to forgive ourselves (as we learn from the atonement of the Savior Jesus Christ) and learn from our mistakes, whatever they are. Continuing to beat ourselves up never helps, and, if you are a person of faith, you are not using the atonement. In fact, you are actually giving the adversary - the enemy, a foothold in your brain. Learn, enjoy the pictures and move on.
My sister and I (in our 40’s) had a fight at Easter dinner of all things. We were disagreeing about politics and religion and how to cook a certain side dish. What is wrong with us? We weren’t even drinking at the time.
I’m right, she’s wrong
Dear “I’m right,”
As long as you hold tight to that belief, it is lose-lose. There is the classic warning to not discuss religion or politics, especially at the dinner table. But, those can be good subjects as long as each person holds on to the belief and value that each person is entitled to his or her own opinion. And practice it behaviorally. If the discussion is going to start to become unpleasant, the subject needs to be changed, soft music added and remind yourself that love matters more than any opinion. I recommend saying, “I see your point, you could be right,” and move on.
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