Thursday, January 9, 2014
I created my own miracle as you say to do. I still have my list of resolutions from last year. Well, that’s the miracle. Ha ha. It is a start of my “be more organized” resolution - but a “fail” on my “follow through” resolution. So, suggestions?
Still just a list
Dear “still just a list,” (love it)
I give you huge kudos for still having the list. Frankly, for most of us, that would be miraculous and you are halfway done. If there are items on the list still pertinent, keep those, cross out those that no longer fit.
There are so many unique ways to make change in your life. It starts with clear behavioral goals, along with benchmarks (how am I doing each month) and a date. A goal without a deadline is just a dream they say. I just noticed I do not like the work deadline. It should be a new beginning.
I’ve read hundreds of suggestions, but I think it is most important to choose a few important items that will improve your life, health and well being (for you and those you are closest too). Then list the steps to get there, with some goal dates.
Most people I interviewed last year say they don’t bother “cause I won’t keep them anyway.” This is not a contest or guilt trip. (Mothers are travel agents for guilt trips. Well. We don’t have to be, but our kids take our “suggestions as just that. Ask my kids.)
Anyhow, celebrate your success and build on that. It is not “pass fail.” It is --”keep growing”!
I am so glad to see 2013 go. We had a tragic death in our family, serious illness and one bad accident. We lost our health insurance and one job. No resolutions this year, just hanging on by the skin of our teeth.
We did one great thing, we found a very Christ-centered church with faithful congregants who are like family. What a life saver. So to all those out there in the same boat, don’t forget about the spiritual part of yourself.
Yes, your priorities will serve you well. Yes, I have a (sound) bias. I don’t know where I’d be without my faith. I love the blueprint the Gospel gives us (i.e. “how to live, love, maintain hope, how to choose the right, how to follow the Savior Jesus Christ and honor God the Father, utilize the gift of the Holy Ghost).
I hope not to offend anyone. After more than 30-plus years of counseling people, I have developed a bias based in the research along with pondering, observation and prayer.
People with faith get through the trials of life better than those who don’t have it. And it isn’t brain washing or lack of true intelligence. Quite the opposite.
We are spiritual beings living an earthly existence in a troubled, confused world. I recommend that people “shop” for a faith position that fits, inspires and comforts them. I pray you will have a much better 2014, grounded by living your faith.
Contact Liz via firstname.lastname@example.org. Liz Brisacher Sharp is a Master degree level Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice with 35 years experience in mental health.