It is February, and when people think of February they often think of romance, but what truly creates romance? You may think of romance as going out to a quiet dinner, for two, but is the food or the restaurant what really makes someone feel special?

You may go to an excellent restaurant with wonderful food, nice ambiance and music — but could it be that the dinner is not so romantic, if the cell phone is answered or texts are sent during the meal?

Romance often begins with making the other person a priority, demonstrated through the respectful actions of focusing on them. This could include listening, having a conversation using a respectful tone of voice, using good eye contact, and having limited distractions.

Making your significant other a priority by showing respect for him/her is a daily thought, all through the year.

Chivalry is romantic

A man is on a date with his significant other; what about holding the door or pulling out the chair; what about chivalry?

Social etiquette is based on the gentlemanly rules of chivalry, which according to Webster, came from the times of mounted men-at-arms, gallant or distinguished gentlemen.

It is marked by chivalric acts which are manifested into acts of honor, generosity, gracious courtesy and high-minded consideration, especially to women.

I am very happy that chivalry is not dead in 2010. In fact, chivalric acts have always been considered essential elements of romance.

Chivalry….what a romantic word.

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